Tue, 10th April 2012, 11:44am
I have been married for 25 years and have been subjected to some horrendous abuse by her over this time - but the last 5 years have been very bad - It is not all the time but too regular for my liking
I have had spit in my face several times, been punched and slapped in the face many many times, called some of the most vile names you could imagine, mentaly and emotionaly abused regulary these are just a few as it hurts to actually put them down here. But when we are around friends she is the angel, butter would not melt in the mouth but occasionally when alcohol is involved she will try to put me down which usually raises a few eyebrows from the friends. Im sure many have noticed !!
Please NOTE : - I have never been unfaithful, nor have i ever hit my wife - I made the mistake of asking her to go seek some help as I know she does require it. - And i wont do that again in a hurry - Marriage Counciling NOT a chance - because there is nothing wrong with her.
I cannot do a thing right even the most trivial thing it is the wrong way - I am a succesfull business man and anyone that has known me would say i always have been funny and happy go lucky guy when im not with my wife. We have had a great lifestyle with world travel, nice home and great kids (Grown) and I would give it all up to be happily married (except the kids) - but Im always on edge not knowing when she is about to unleash her fury over the most rediculous things. I am actually scared at times and do not like her walking behind me as i have been sniped a couple of times from behind.
Is it borderline a personality disorder I just dont know what to do or where to go next.
I need some advice how to regain my full confidence as all of this is affecting my business and will affect my health i can feel it !!
What advice is there to try to get her to think ive had enough, do I just not respond to her abuse - I cannot bring myself to leave - dont know what to do !!!
Ps Both around the late 40s